Wednesday, June 13, 2018

When Parenting Becomes Tough

When Parenting Becomes Tough

There was one night when our eldest Gabi was not feeling well. He doesn't have a fever, so it's more like a headache. He refused to do chores because he requested to be on a rest. So we didn't give him any chore for the day but instead instructed him to rest and go to bed early. 

When we were sending him upstairs to sleep early, he did not obey. Instead, we saw him reading. So hubby gave him a consequence for disobedience. He has to wash the dishes (sometimes we use chores as consequence) and he cried hard because he said he is not feeling well. We explained to him that we understand that and that's why we want him to rest. But he did not take heed of it. While crying he said we want him to be sicker because we are giving him a chore. But he has no choice because the consequence has been given already. I know it may sound cruel but my husband said he needs to learn the consequences of his actions. 

Moments like this make me feel like rescuing him from his turmoil but I yielded to my husband. I need to control myself and just allow him to suffer from it. You know, parenting becomes tough when we see our kids suffering. But I praise God for my husband and the wisdom He is giving to him.

We all went up but he was still sobbing while doing the chore and was left downstairs. I went down after few minutes and he is in between sobs. I gave him a hug and told him to finish it so he can rest and reminded him not to forget to change clothes after. 

The next morning before husband left for work, he asked me to talk to Gabi and process what happened. I got the chance to talk to him over lunch. He shared what he felt. He said he was mad because we don't want him to rest. I reiterated to him the reason why and reminded him of our rules. Fortunately, he understood that and admitted that his action deserves a consequence. He said he wants his Dad to comfort him too in times like that, aside from Mom. So, I told hubby about it so he can improve in that area.

I praise God for moments like this that we can learn from each other and we can help each other improve. My son is also very honest when it comes to his feelings which we are grateful to God. We may not be the perfect parents but we are committed to improving for His glory.

We may have a long way to go on this journey called parenting, and it becomes tough at times. But we have a gracious God who is patient with us everytime we fall and carry us through.
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. ~ Isaiah 41:10 ESV

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