8 Years of Marriage

Last November 19, we celebrated our 8 years of marriage. Yes! 8 years, by God's grace!

I can still remember the time when I proposed marriage to my husband. Yes, you read it right, I did the proposal. Funny isn't it?

I was a new Christian when I got pregnant to Gabi, our eldest. We were living together and I was convicted that our situation is not pleasing to God. I told my husband which was my boyfriend then that if we want to live together, we need to get married. His face was puzzled but he eventually said OK. I think he doesn't want to disappoint me that time. He was just 18 then, 4 years younger than me and most of the time, I do the major decisions. I decided that we separate first in order to purify ourselves. We parted for 3 months and lived together after getting married.

The first few years of our marriage was a rocky road. We were both young and immature. We don't have a clear model of a wife and a husband. (by the way, I came from a broken family). We fight and argue a lot. We were both proud and self-centered. We have a lot of drama; from packing things, tearing our marriage contract, tossing rings, oh my! It was like a teleserye.

But I praise God because he is the restorer of every marriage. Though the enemy attempted many times to destroy it, God is sovereign. You see, there's nothing really good in us. We were both sinners with lots of faults and if God is not part of our marriage, we won't get this far.

After 8 years of marriage, we still argue and fight. We still exchange hurtful words from time to time. There are things about my husband that still annoys me and sometimes I still want to wring his neck, haha. But those imperfections, most of the time are covered up with love and forgiveness. We are a recipient of God's love and forgiveness, therefore, we should not withhold these things to our spouse. I choose to accept him and rejoice in his transformation because eventually, we will grow up out of our foolishness and stupidity as we walk with the Lord. 

hubby's sweet message posted in our FB account

Marriage should not be focused on our spouse but on the one true God. Our husbands will never complete us, only the Creator Himself. Our marriage is not perfect and it will never be. That is why we need a perfect God at the center of it. 

We have a long road to take but we are happy to know that God will lead us every step of the way. He is not done yet with our lives and we are excited for his plan to unfold.

We love because he first loved us. ~ 1 John 4:19

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. ~ Philippians 1:6